His Priorities

Men have many different ideas about what their priorities should be. But every wife feels she should be at the top of he husband's list-right there under God. I've found , however, that if a wife wants her husband's priorities to be in that kind of order, sha has to make sure hers are in that order as well. In other words, if you want your husband to place you as priority over work, children, friends, and activities, you need to do the same for him. I God and spouse aren't clearly top priorities in your life, your husband will have less incentive to make them so in his. I know very well about the struggle to keep order of priorities, especially if there are little ones in the picture. Children's needs are immediate and urgent and you're the one to take care of them. A husband, after all, is an adult and hopefully can take care of himself. Even if there are no children, it's possible to be consumed by work, home, friends, projects, interests, and activities. It's hard, in the midst of everything that occupies your time and attention not to allow your husband to fall down on the list-or at least feel as though he has.
      Fortunately, priorities don't always have to do with the total amount of time spent on them, otherwise anyone with a forty-hour work week would be putting God second to their job unless he or she was praying at least eight hours a day. And there is no way a wife can give as much time to her husband as she does to a young child without neglecting the child. When it comes to your husband, it's not so much a matter of how much time you take, but that you do take the time to make him feel like he is a priority.
      Just greeting him first thing in the morning with a smile and a hug can make him feel he's important to you. so is asking him, " Is there anything you want me to do for you today?" ( And then he tells you, remember to do it.) Also, let him know you are praying for him and ask what he specifically wants you to pray about. Even checking in with him periodically in the midst of the many other things you are doing assures him he's still at the top of your list.
      Priorities have to do with the position in the heart. Planning times for just the two of you-a date, a night or two away, a dinner alone, time in the home without any children or friends-communicates to him that he is a priority in your heart. If you want your husband to love you more, you need to love him more. It always works, especially if you're praying about it as well.
       If you feel that you just don't have the time and or energy to put your husband first and still do all that's expected of you, ask God for a fresh filling of His Holy Spirit. Seek Him first and He will help you get your priorities in order. If your schedule doesn't allow time to be with God and draw on His strength, then rework your priorities and make a new schedule. The old one is not working.
      In the business my husband is in, we often see people experience success quickly. The problem with that is a spirit of lust for more success, more power, and more wealth usually comes along with it. When these people don't make a special effort to keep their priorities in order, their pride guides them, and they buy into its lure. They slip into overdrive, leaving God, family, church, and friends in their dust. When these shooting stars come back to earth, the landing is often hard. We don't want that to happen, even on a small scale, to our husbands. Pray for your husband to always put God first, you second, and the children third. Then, no matter what else is going on in his life, his priorities will be in order and there will be greater peace and happiness ahead for both of you.

Prayer:
God, I proclaim You Lord over my life. Help me to seek You first every day and set my priorities in perfect order. Reveal to me how to properly put my husband before children, work, family, friends, activities, and interests. Show me what I can do right now to demonstrate to him that he has this position in my heart. Mend the times I have caused him to doubt that. Tell me how to prioritize everything so that whatever steals away, or has no lasting purpose, will not occupy my time.
      I pray for my husband's priorities to be in perfect order as well. Be Lord and Ruler over his heart. Help him to choose a simplicity of life that will allow him to have time alone with You, Lord, a place to be quiet in Your presence every day. Speak to him about making Your Word, prayer and praise a priority. Enable him to place me and our children in greater prominence in his heart than career, friends, and activities. I pray he will seek You first and submit his all to You, for when he does I know the other pieces of his life will fit together perfectly.

Power Tools:
Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you. ( Matthew 6:33)

Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others. ( Philippians 2:4)

No one can serve two masters; for either he will hate the one and love the other, or else he will be loyal to the one and despise the other. ( Matthew 6:24)

The kingdom of heaven is like a merchant seeking beautiful pearls, who, when he had found one pearl of great price, went and sold all that he had and bought it. ( Matthew 13:45,46)

You shall worship the Lord your God, and Him only you shall serve. ( Matthew 4:10)